Maybe I need to put it all on paper. Think about the type of man I want to be and what the looks like. Then make a list of short and long term goals and start checking them off one by one.
(I read this first part and was like - Yes!!)
^^^Problem with this is I don't know who I want to be. I've always wanted to be the family guy.
(Then I read this part and was like - Oh )
Truly, I do think you sound like a lovely guy - and you may well have the family again some day soon. However - who are you without that structure around you? I think you need to know before 'family' can really work. Because then, you have your own identity, know your own boundaries and what matters you - and all of these things are essential in healthy relationships - as I'm discovering, and I was somewhat lacking/unaware here.
So - if we take your SO completely out of the equation here - and you're not dating for a good while - AND you are happy - tell us more about what that looks like.
Where do you live? Where do you work, doing what? Who are your friends? What do you do with them? How do you relax? What hobbies do you have? When do you achieve 'flow' or being in the 'zone?' What do you look forward to? What don't you like doing?
Ie: - who is the YOU without having anyone else in the picture??
Try not to feel frustrated - all of this soul searching is useful and will get you somewhere better I promise xx
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
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