Thanks for checking in on me. I'm doing OK.

I have loads to work on. That is my focus for now. I have found some great resources on the net that are helping me. I like to listen to stuff, so at work I am listening to podcasts about pma, happiness, mindfulness, stress, sleep, anxiety,eetc.It is good stuff and I work better when listening. Win win. I'll probably share the site when I start my next thread.

I have to avoid thinking about how long we have not been god and the lack of real progress in the 16 months I have been TRYING to save my M. The more time that goes by the harder it is to think it will turn around.But I am using the time I have. I would never have looked so deep inside me if I hadn't been faced with this situation.

My situation could change quickly either direction, but will most likely be a long while yet. A very long while.I accept where we are. For now. I could rewrite tons about this but I have work to do. Yeap I have refound my focus!

Happy thoughts everyone.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together