Got served in January. It gets better- trust me. You are a few steps behind her when you get the papers. Time to catch up. Tough things to think about, but you need to: child placement, where the $$$ is, where it's going to go, kid's assets, 401k money contributions, parenting plan, etc.
It was very tough for me too. My WW gave me a 20 minute warning before the process server showed up. My S11 was there too, he read the papers so that he realizes who's breaking up our family. Re: 401k contribution: I didn't think about that. I should stop all contributions now right? Because it will just benefit WW.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
