You give such kind, supportive advise on this board. To be honest, I have been holding back on posting on your situation because what I want to tell you does not coincide with dbing
I feel like many of us females on here would love to be with a guy like you. You are loyal, supportive, empathetic, and you supported and loved a child that was not your own. You actually give me hope that good men do exist out there.
I understand how sad, depressive,frustrating it is that your wife is not capable of loving and treating you the way you deserve to be. And you really do deserve to be treated well. You forgave her once but when it occurs repetitively how much is fair for you to undergo?
It sounds like you are exploring the reason why you go for women that are not really attainable?
On a side note.... I am a bit confused by codependency. I have not read much about it. I kind of feel that any relationship involving children does require a level of codependency? Both partners need to give up a part of themselves to function as a family unit. From a practical standpoint maintaining individual hobbies and friendships at the same time as raising kids and working and keeping a marriage going seems like a luxury that is only really doable for a very small percentage of us. My husband complains about having to give up everything and I feel like yeah, unless your wealthy you kind of do when the kids are little at least. Or am I getting this wrong?
