One thing i found helpful for me in the earlier days Broke was reading parenting books. I was very anxious for their futures and focused on reading about parenting through separation, divorce, coparenting etc. I found co-parenting books made me angry because they did not reflect the situation i found us in, and i could not apply the strategies. But being the best parent i can be - that was something i could do. Normal parenting books - not co-parenting books worked well for me and my worries for the boys.
I still feel anxious at times about the boys futures and try not to focus on the statistics of boys from broken homes. If i focus on simply parenting as best as I can and focus on our wee home not being broken regardless of Xh antics, then i feel strong and as if things will work out as best possible.
Yay for boys
I do feel a bit responsible for trying to provide a strong enough example to change what i now think is a generational pattern in XH's family. I do not want them growing up to make these same sad decisions, destroying families and their own future joy.
Thank you for your message - i really should have started posting long ago
