Angrily Spewing

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...Job, why they spent money like crazy, they get high with money spent to avoid been depressing ?...

Hi Babe,
all I can do is relate this to my situation. I'm a LBH, my wife has a double whammy with being a WAW having an A going through MLC.

One of the things I noticed - money was a huge part of her "problem", feeling that we were always short and she worked so hard. Being a nice guy, I even didn't go to the dentist so she wouldn't be upset with money spent. But she traveled to Europe twice in 6 months, and would literally max a card, pay it off and the same day max it again. She demanded I get together all of the billing (it was already done and filed) so she could look at the credit card expenditures. She never did - it was just a "thing" to make me do. She knew what she'd see when she looked.

In her final tirade, she said she had been "striking out" by spending. Well, I don't know about striking out, but I do know about the spending.

With guys, I would imagine the spending would have to do with toys and partying. With her, there was a lot of entertainment. It seems though that with the MLC this is part of the pattern. Whether it is on gym, new clothes, new hair, teeth etc., they literally do become like dumb kids again.

This is based entirely on my own observations. I can say though the more I read these threads, the more similar the behavior pattern is for a lot of these wayward spouses.

Unfortunately - identification is the easy part. The only person that you can affect is you. I wish I had something more positive for you.