I am so sorry you are feeling so down. I can only imagine how that must've felt to find all those letters. My H was not the romantic letter type but I found one email that he wrote that made me devastated and I so desperately wanted to send it to him to remind him of how much he loved me.
But, remember, they aren't thinking rationally right now. And, anytime I pursued, begged, pleaded or tried to have a logical conversation with my H, it just backfired. I think he felt backed into a corner and he retreated even further. I am not sure that db'ing will give me the opportunity to reconcile which is what I want. However, I have been doing it for the last 4 weeks and my H and I have had more "civil" contact in the last 2-3 days than in the last 2-3 weeks. So, while my ultimate goal would be to get a second chance to repair my M, I do believe that had I been db'ing from the start I would've had a better shot. So, IMHO, I don't think sending him the letters is the right course of action. Can you get out and do some GAL'ing tonight? Or, maybe get in a good workout? I hope you feel better.
((hugs))
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16