I would evaluate her based on her interactions and behavior toward you. In your evaluation, consider the answer to the following questions: Did she appear to change suddenly? Does her heart seem to closed to you? Are her reasons for ending the M based on selfishness? Does she make every thing about her, and if it's not....then she isn't interested? Does she take out her moodiness or anger on you? Does it take very little for you to set her off? Does she keep her phone glued to her? How was the sex life before she announced she wanted a divorce? Does she show a disrespectful attitude toward you? Does she ever put you down in front of others or the kids? Does she seem to have resentment, yet you aren't sure why? Have you seen anything out of character for her? Aside from talking about herself, her day, her problems.........does she seem interested in you at all?

Does she seem overall sad and hopeless? Does she act as if she has given up all hope? Does she act as if she is hurt or disappointed? Has she tried to work out the issues with you? Does she act as if she wants to be free, or escape?

Do you feel this could be the result of things not being resolved from the time you were here in 2008?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!