I ended up just saying that I hope the last few days have been better and if she was going to leave the tax forms in my car tomorrow. She replied that she might not be at work tomorrow so next would be better.
So that is fine. These are just my feelings talking...I know DB'ing is counter intuitive and this could just be a temp check, but man is it hard not to double guess some of the actions sometimes. I am OK with everything that happened. She opened up a bit, she called me. I just feel like I need a bit of a change of strategy soon. I do not think that going back to strict no contact is the right thing here. We will have to meet soon I think. She suggested meeting, and I said no. She is expressing a need to communicate to 'figure things out'.... I don't take that to be positive, but I think she is right in a way. She also said that she hates that I deal with things this way. I am not sure if this really an issue (I didn't think it was) or if she was just frustrated. If it was an issue in our relationship, I don't want to keep doing more of the same. If her therapist really suggested no contact, then that kind of explains a lot. The no contact for that long was not like her.
Anyway, I'll let it be for a few days I guess. Any thoughts on a next move? This might be the best time for a coach.
