Sounds very familiar to my sitch. I think they are not liking us at the present time, so they are really defensive. Even about things that are benign. They get in a huff because they are mad at us for other things. My W acts the same way. Read my sitch. Cooks meals, seeks me out to tell me about her day, laughs looks for my eye contact when watching funny tv. It really is a mind-f***. Very hard line to walk between doing 180's and detachment. Keep up that running. I have been hitting the gym pretty hard and I'm no gym rat let me tell ya.
I should take a look at yours!
She sent me a message asking what I want for dinner. She said she's not interested in food or getting off the couch but she'd make something. I'm certain this means she has something to talk about tonight, probably separation. She pulls this indirect style of communication whenever something is up.
I'll try to focus on calm and validation. I don't know how she'd see separation working, but we don't have money for a rental and I'm not leaving the house per advise from a lawyer years ago. I'm told leaving can be seen as abandonment and lead to custody issues with the kids.
Wish me luck
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
