Let's take a step back and ask the important questions here.
Red, has H ever been physically or emotionally abusive to you at all? I hope I am not missing something here. From what I read here, H is just being a jerk and not respecting you which is why I suggested laying down boundaries and be assertive.
Maybe I missed something here....did not catch if H was abusive at all.
Being an a$$ is one thing, and being abusive is another. We would want to be clear here and not muddy the waters here.
