I'm glad you found your way here and have decided to post after lurking for 2 years (The "cling on" term cracks me up!)
You are not divorced and XH is engaged to OW, right? Your boys sound like they are busy with their activities. Does XH ever participate/spectate? Is there any type of official custody arrangement? I know you don't like how XH is offering his time contingent upon also spending it with OW. Do your boys need support in how they handle it?
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