Still NC - Let's do the limbo pt2

[broke]

I need to break out of the codependency pattern, too. The difference is I let myself get here - I didn't start this way. I was a very independent, strong, successful professional when I married my H. But, I was only 23 when I got married, so I basically moved from my parents to college to being married. I need to get comfortable on my own, too!

I think it happened subconsciously for me as well - I was the caring, nurturer that took care of everyone. After reading your posts and the responses, I wonder if I took some of that away from my H - he travelled so much, I basically was a single parent and I took on everything that needed to be done except his job. That was really his only responsibility.