i am new to posting but have been following for ages - a 'cling on' as someone else said
I have very little contact with my ExH and that has made my day to day life rather stressless, as I leave him to his own devices, and carry on with my life - actively trying to be the best me i can. Not perfect by any means, but like you, a pretty nice person. Nice a bit insipid actually - a pretty rocking person.
You sound far to spirited to be simply 'nice' and i think you may be a pretty rocking person too!
I do find that because there is so little contact, i struggle when there is contact. I struggle with ExH ability to appear 'normal' and as if this whole crazy situation is normal. I struggle to find safe non consequential things to talk about. Im so busy faking it that I wonder if I actually come off appearing happy about his choices and actions then spend time berating myself for not using the brief moments of contact better.
I so appreciate the advice given to you and take heart from it myself.
This is not about us; it does not matter what other people think - they will think it anyway; we CAN still be the best us possible.
I hope you have a good day today - being you which rocks and is much more than nice.
