Attracting back your H by detaching when he thinks you have changed and then going back on it will send him running to the hills. its inauthentic, consider real change on this.
It is false pretenses. If you have no intention of staying detached then I think this cycle will repeat.
V
Hope,
I was thinking similarly to what you seemed to be thinking: that the detaching was "temporary" and that, if we were blessed enough to get a second chance with our WAS, then we could "reattach". This post by Vanilla is so eye-opening!
As I have said in previous posts to you, I think you and I have similar situations. We seem to think a lot alike. I also was very controlling in my R with my H. Seeing Vanilla spell it all out in this post makes me realize that, once again, I was missing a key point. All this work we are doing on ourselves is meant to help us and our R in the future (with or without the WAS), but it really is a gift to detach and not be controlling or manipulative. I know my H would've loved for me to not be such a "nag" or "stress about the small stuff". I think by truly doing a 180 and not be attached to him in this unhealthy way, it would've helped my M tremendously. How did you feel when you read that detaching is actually "warm and loving"?
Well broke, you uncovered what I was saying.
If you love someone set them free.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
