I realize it makes sense to you to call and beg her to give the M another chance and to tell her how much you love her. At this point for her, it is about respect. If a woman treats her H badly and he begs her to stay, in her mind he is basically saying that she can mistreat him and he will tollerate it.........just don't leave him. This only results with her disrespecting him more, b/c she sees it as weakness in him.

Her lack of respect for you as a man is getting in the way of her love. As a woman, she has to respect you as a man, before she is capable of desiring you....loving you as her H. That is how women are wired. That is why the way to win her back has to be by getting her respect. It starts with you refusing to take cr@p behavior from her.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!