Why are you not reaching out to friends? It sounds like you are predicting a bleak future but you're not doing much to prevent it from happening. Don't be a victim.
Why can't you take the class you need to take? Does nobody in the city teach it except Wks mentor?
Hi Painter, here's my predicament. I've reached out to friends. Unfortunately, my very best 2 buddies from HS (still in state or alive) are in opposite directions about 90 minutes+ away. One of the things I did was move to my W's hometown, which has separated me in more ways than one. For the moment I'm physically stuck here until I can find somebody to be a caretaker for my Mother. Leaving for over an hour is right out.
Her downhill slide has been very rapid. I could have gotten together with a friend on Monday otherwise. My other buddy is having problems coping right now with all of this and doesn't know how to react. He considered the W a good friend and also feels betrayed. So he's sort of pulled back, while he's supportive (via email) he's more of a sounding board and nothing more.
Sadly, I've lost some good friends in the past 2 years. It's these losses that helped push the W into her MLC I believe. One of them in particular would be of great help right now. I really miss him.
When I moved my Mom here, I also separated her from her town and now we're both here alone. She was really alone before, but she didn't feel that way. Now her best friend is the MIL. All the friends I made here were the W's friends, clients, coworkers and acquaintances. One couple I thought were friends seem to have been enablers for the A. One problem with making friends with her clients - half of them move away!
Unfortunately the W talked to pretty much everyone while I was still reeling from what happened. They're all sympathizing with her, she's the one who needs to stay strong and move forward. They think she's taking the high road. None of them have any idea. The only people who really wanted to know what happened were the IL's. She talked to them first - but they didn't believe her (sort of telling, no?) and the MIL had pretty much guessed the real reason.
As far as the Real Estate Classes, I stopped looking at the emails except for the one to do with the coach just to verify that indeed, she was starting to help with the classes again. And no, there's nobody like this RE coach/mentor in all of CA. She travels all over the US and is very well known. So now with the W helping out with the classes (we used to do this a lot until the falling out), she'll be getting close to the few people I know outside of the W's circle.
I do literally have a bank box full of lessons from these classes. As I mentioned we used to help her with classes so I attended many - and was even a videographer for her for a while. So I know the dialog and methods. It's just that the classes stay current with current trends, and it's all practice - just like language.
It's possible that since I had requested being able to go to these classes when I filled out the support declarations, that the court could order something - but I know they wouldn't tell her she can't go. Bottom line - I'm stuck in a town where the W's family has been since 1920. She's well known, is very active in the community and is making herself more active. My properties are here (unless the court decides with her), I've invested heavily in this town. Unless I can get out of here - I've got to deal with her. A lot.
Me: 58 Her: 59 Kids: 0 Dog: 1 ILYBINILWY: 9/15 D Bomb: 1/11/16 (found out filed) Verified OM: 1/11/16 Moved out: 1/11/16 (thought it was temporary)
