Sending virtual hugs your way. I know that conversation hurt, and I know it was hard to hear.
I think splitting up with the person I was with for a couple years after my D was super hard too. In some ways, harder than the D. I completely understand how devastated you are.
But I'm really proud of you for standing up for yourself. Your needs are important, and there is nothing you can do if someone else isn't willing to make a situation improve or compromise if they want to be with you.
I wouldn't be surprised at all if he comes back in a few months and says he's changed his mind. It will be up to you if that happens.
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But I'll tell you this much, I think I'm done dating until D8 is at least 16. This single parent dating with young kids is too much.
I made that same decision for the exact same reason. Only I said 18. At 16, D22 was in the heart of her club volleyball stuff, being recruited, and I was kicking her in the a$$ to get her moving on college selections (she was super resistant). It was a full time job!!! I had no more energy to be with anyone else during this time, because this seemed to be the time in her life when she needed me the most. (That surprised the heck out of me, BTW. You always think that little kids need their mom the most.) I was like her project manager, and she was so busy with school, taking the SAT, that kind of stuff.
Now here I am. My D18 turns 19 next week, and what I value the most are my friendships. I really enjoy making plans with friends and doing stuff with and for them. Who'd have known? Give me a margarita with my friends... ANY.DAY. Not saying you'll make that choice, but I am a fan of being present for the kids. Not if the parent is truly unhappy. But I think a sacrifice is for the greater good.
You'll have the good memories to take with you, Ginger. Those are yours to keep and cherish.
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
