Staying the Course Pt. II

[Vanilla]

In my view detaching is warm and loving.

Consider a 180 on this because being controlling is cold and unloving, invalidating and denying another their identity.

And eventually most healthy individuals will want out of an R like that.

So if you get back together you can recommence a vice grip?

I would suggest detaching is the essence of your learning.

Attracting back your H by detaching when he thinks you have changed and then going back on it will send him running to the hills. its inauthentic, consider real change on this.

It is false pretenses. If you have no intention of staying detached then I think this cycle will repeat.

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