Thanks Tim, I really appreciate your words of encouragement, and I mean it.

I got the kindle version of NMMNG, but pretty much just started it myself. At least at the moment I can relate to some of what he's saying, other things not so much. Still I'm sure there's going to be some nuggets in there.

I'm pretty sure that from here on out I will have no more communication with the W or her assistant. They've gotten what they want out of me and for the moment I can't think of a thing that would prompt her to reach out.

She's got the friends, she's got the house, the possessions and she's got my dog. I've stopped seeing the in-laws which really kills me. The MIL came by a couple of days ago, but I left her to talk with my Mother. But if it really is over - then I'm not seeing much reason to continue cutting off the IL's.

The lack of friends right now is pretty rough. I've not reached out to many, others have dropped off the grid so it's hard to tell if it's that they don't know how to react or have sided with the W. What really kills me is the W has her OM, and I don't even get the dog. I had her, and gave her back assuming we would share. That was more than a month ago. I do have her Sister though, in a little wooden box. I wasn't going to leave her there in that cold house, even though she loved it so much. Pretty pathetic, huh?

I'll certainly talk with a DB coach at least once before my next move - if there is one. Hard to believe that just a few weeks ago I thought there was some hope, and now - nothing.


Me: 58
Her: 59
Kids: 0
Dog: 1
ILYBINILWY: 9/15
D Bomb: 1/11/16 (found out filed)
Verified OM: 1/11/16
Moved out: 1/11/16 (thought it was temporary)