Staying the Course Pt. II

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Detaching is not being unattached or being dark. One can be very detached and yet still be full contact.

How is that even possible?

I have an admin assistant that works with my team. When I need her help with something we sometimes chat for a moment. If she's taken a vacation or something big has happened in her life we might catch up for a few minutes. I might see her every day, and sometimes have to work with her briefly to accomplish a specific task. Then again, we might not see each other for a week. We are friendly towards each other, but it is a work relationship.

I am far from dark in that I see her most days. I don't avoid her, or act distant or angry or withdrawn or anything like that.

But I'm sure not pursuing anything with her, nor do I really care what she thinks about me. She doesn't occupy any space in my head, and I'm sure this is the most I've thought about her in a year.

It seems impossible, but use this model to guide your actions now, and the feelings WILL follow.