[BrightFuture]

Job, Irish, 2T, thanks for your postings! I really appreciate every post.

Job, the reason I think that my posts are boring is because I don’t have much replies, sometimes none. I can see that people are reading. I think I already posted before that I normally don’t do much journaling. I need connection with people. I don’t talk about my sitch with anybody anymore, not with my friends, not with my family… This board is where I still get some support. When there are no replies to my posts, I just think that there is really nothing to say any more about my sitch and everyone is just tired of same old same old… It is probably the truth anyway… And I do feel silly sometimes for posting the details.

I also know that I’m not a frequent poster myself. I keep up with quite a few thread, just don’t have time and energy to post right away. It takes a bit more of effort from me to write compared to most people.

Anyway, I’m not complaining… I do appreciate all the support from everyone on this board. And I still get a lot of value by reading other stories and advice.

Irish, your MLCer is a lot worse than my, even though there some similarities. There is no question in my mind that your W is in full blown MLC. I just cannot imagine what goes through her mind, but it must be totally from some another world.

2T, I’ve been following your posts too. I can see that you are going through very similar feelings, and thoughts, and questions, as I have been recently. I’m also hoping that one day H comes out of the fog… But… I think I’m starting to give on up that…

Yes, I feel that there is a thin line between cutting off all the enabling behavior and allowing enough time for our H’s to finish their journeys. I just think that when I feel that it is over, none of this will matter anymore.

Yes, the mortgage issues… These are on H’s plate right now. I did all I could to help. The good thing is that he is paying the mortgage (even though both our names are on it, and also on the trust), and it is up to him to sort it out now.

Small update (I think…) I scanned and e-mailed H all the escrow statements. He thanked me. Then next day I received another text from him, asking me to write the principal and escrow amount on the next check that I will send to the mortgage company (which would be less than what’s on the bill.) I replied that I will do, and that I was actually thinking to do exactly the same. He replied “Cool”. Just the fact that he replied is kind of significant. H used to be mad at people who wanted to have the “last” word in texting. He did just that, LOL. I’m sure he just wanted to make sure he was extremely polite with me, LOL.

Now, a couple of “cases” of MLCer bad memory… I sent H a company file a few weeks ago and then asked him to send it back to me after he made his updated (paying the credit card bill). I uploaded his file yesterday and notices that there were a few records missing… Then I restored my file (that I sent to him) and realized that he actually didn’t load my file before making his updates. So, I sent him an e-mail yesterday, attached my file again and asked him to do it right this time – download my file, then make his updates and send the file back to me.

I came home after work and there was no e-mail from H. So, I texted him, telling him about my e-mail. He texted right back… “Oops, I think I downloaded it but forgot to finish it. I will pay attention tomorrow!” OMG! Is this some serious memory/attention issue?... Or… is he playing with me?...

I’m planning on going to the vacation home this weekend, for the off-roads annual event. I’m still trying to sort out the accommodation, since H is still there. I think my son, his GF and maybe their friend will be going too. So, I assume they will stay at the condo with H.