I find myself becoming more discouraged and frustrated with the lack of any evidence that my divorce busting efforts are actually having any positive affects to saving my marriage.
I know it is best for my children if we wait until the end of the school year to proceed with a full separation. I have focused so much of my time and energy considering other people's feelings before mine that I am ready to take charge and do what's best for me for a change. I find myself wanting to tell the wife to finally pack up and leave so that I can get on with my life.
With her still in the house it's too hard for me to accept the current situation. Having her here, I find I am failing at becoming a true DB'er. As hard as I try to show little concern for her daily routine, I inadvertently show interest. It's who I am.
Still no response from her since a stated my position once we separate. I gave her so much to think about but still nothing from her. I know if I had never brought up my concerns about our marriage she still would not have mentioned anything about her unhappiness with me. If I don't bring things up I will never know the truth or where she stands. I am under no assumptions that she has changed her mind, but with zero conversation about our situation I have no idea if I have made any progress.
I know it will be selfish of me to force her hand and have her to follow through on her threat to separate earlier than originally planned but if I do nothing, I am showing weakness. It is my view that I am not strong and giving her the control of my life.
I trust the advice I receive here, I just need more of it. Any help will be appreciated
Don't count the days, make the days count. Mohammad Ali
