I also ask those same questions when I'm feeling sad about the state of my M. But, I'm trying hard not to go there because it's mind-reading and we can only control ourselves not our WAS. I know you are feeling very low because you've had so much time go by with no contact. Keep up the db'ing. Stay strong - know I am thinking of you and pulling for you. I hope you have found comfort in what Zeus and Vanilla posted.
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16