Lets try to reframe what Zues has said about detachment.
Detachment is a psychological state which prepares you to act in your own best interest.
It is about focusing on you not the outcome, it is being ok with any end result even if you have a preference. It is being able to adjust to act in a better way without self criticism.
No more concentrating on someone or something you have no control over.
This isn't just about your R. It is a new way of being in the world.
Doing that which is right for you irrespective of the outcome and being ok with it is a way of life.
It is about your boss at work who may not like the report, the girl in the coffee shop who serves you cold coffee, the train that is late, the computer that just wont connect to the internet, the DBer who describes what you write as gobbledygook.
It is about your wayward who has scrambled eggs for brains.
It is WTF it makes no sense and move on.
It is about your own interactions with yourself. It is about 180s.
It is for the rest of your life not just to repair your R for a couple of months.
It is the Serenity prayer in action.
It is knowing the only thing you have control over is your actions and beliefs (not even your own emotions).
It is being in observer mode.
This is a huge thing and if you get it, really get it, it will change your life irrevocably permanently.
Once you know you can never unknow.
There will be great shift.
Working hard at detachment is the opposite of what is needed. Work less hard at it and let things unfold in time. Observe others and what works. Cease to strive and start to be and do in this moment.
Have written goals for you, start there and just do what is needed for you.
Detaching is one of my biggest tools in my toolkit.
It is attaching to yourself rather than another.
Detaching is not being unattached or being dark. One can be very detached and yet still be full contact.
That's how it is for me
Hope that helps
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
