7 month rollercoaster ride

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DadsCB,
while this forum has been very helpful for me in many ways, it's also been so troubling to see so many people in so much pain. I think it sank in one Friday when I was going to Newcomers, and saw that there were 112 people looking.

Just wow.

This is why I had to chime in though - all I can say is - what is it with old high school friends? Good grief.

While I'm probably the last person anybody should listen to here, my only take is if you can do anything to stall the process, slow it down and continue working on your DR, do it. That is if it's something you want to save.

In my case, my W is with an old classmate (class of 1975 to give you a clue) and from what I can tell, she pursued him. He's long divorced, and from what I understand loves playing the field. I also don't get this "let's introduce him to the H" stuff. While

I had met him several times since the W is on the high school reunion committee (her and her assistant are it), she even wanted me to BBQ for him and the group in July. I didn't, and that was a huge bone of contention for a long time. And one of the crazy things WAW's do apparently. She was mad I didn't entertain them, at the same time she made it clear I wasn't welcome in the festivities. D*d if you do, D*d if you don't...

Currently I have zero contact with her. The D is going through full speed ahead. There seems to be nothing I can do but watch the 2 trains collide.

I seem to be on the other side of "it's possible" as far as the R. This is both my fault and the W's. There will come a point when I won't want it to work any longer. I hope you don't get there. You don't seem to be yet.

IMHO, while putting things on hold won't necessarily bring her out of the fog, it might slow things enough so that she could come to her senses sometime before the deed is done. I'm sorry for your pain, but you seem to be handling things quite well. I'm a mess and don't even know the specifics like you do.

In summary, since I cannot communicate with the W, I envy anybody who still has that capability, so that's where I'm coming from. I see it as potential. YMMV.