Thanks again otw... you are really helping me keep my head on straight.

I def did not engage in R talk during that call, nothing even close. I think I did good there honestly. But, at the same time, she definitely did not hint at wanting to work on anything at the moment. The talk was mainly focused on how bad her life is. Looking back, mainly at that text, I don't really take that as positive, I think I mentioned that at the time. Like you said 'I wish' does not really mean much... I am pretty sure she said she wished we did this or that at BD. The main positive in there was that she said "i miss life with you". You could actually read that text and say she is laying the ground work for moving forward with D honestly.

I felt more positive about the call.... but again there really was nothing in there even suggesting that she is having a change of heart. The main thing you can say from that call is that her life has not improved since she left, she is still unhappy, maybe more so now. But I can't dwell on this. At least communication is improving and she showed a desire to see me.

My W is prideful and that could be an issue. She also cares a bunch about what other people think. So she would push back reconciling because if she thought my family and friends hate her (trust me, it took forever for her to get over this the last time).

So what to do, what to do.... I think I will wait and send her a text tomorrow about the tax stuff, and say that I hope that last few days have been better. I will say that she can either drop the forms in my car at her work or we can meet somewhere sometime. Then I'll go from there.

The reason for the meet somewhere sometime proposal is because her initial suggestions was to actually drop them off at my house next weekend. I know this is not the smart move, so I shot that down. But if she wants to meet somewhere else I am OK with that. The phone convo has boosted my confidence in being able to maintain my DB'ing in a face to face meeting. I wouldn't have expectations in either option she chooses, I really do not even care either way. Since she already reached out to meet, I think this is OK to go this route.

I don't know where this will go to.... but we will find out!