Help!

[Vanilla]

I helped my waw move out during our first seperation. I only recommend doing that if you can keep yourself together.

When she finally left after bringing the last load to the car, I fell apart.

I definitely want to avoid that with my WW. I don't think I will fall apart, I will just have Angry Outbursts and be sad afterwards.
What is the DB philosophy on this? I think she wants me to help her with the computers as well, in a Detached mode, should I do so?

Do that which works for you, and if it doesn't change it.

I packed for WH and moved it to storage to prevent him from coming back after he kept collecting his stuff a tea towel at a time.

There is high risk in messing with the computers, so I would leave her to seek a professional. Too many accusations can arise.

If you are going to pay off debts do so through your L and make the cheques out to the credit card company, post it direct and send the receipt. That would be my thoughts.