Not sure if it's going to help newcomers, so take it as you want it. Today my mind started to wonder about STBXH and all this not so nice situation, so I decided to take a piece of paper and write down for headlines: family, values, work and finances!
Had a lot of fun doing it! Then I looked back and it make me realised that actually I might have contributed to the failure of my M, although when I looked through that list it made me realised that out of the 2 I'm the stable one! I can't tell you how much it boosted my confidence!
Had a thought about karma. My FIL beat up my MIL, cheated on her on several occasions, and karma finally got back to him. My FIL will always live with the knowledge that he is responsible for my MIL's death, that he has lost his relationship with his son and that his partner is seriously a control freak and not very nice. I don't think he is happy. I would never wish anything like that on anyone.
Why all that? My FIL hasn't changed one bit and I don't want my life to turn out like his. I'm making my changes, and I'm proud of it!
