Ah Jelly - thank you so much. I think I am an active cling-on too - i have been sucking this site dry for 2 years - thank you all.

I might check out some co-parenting sites because it is the anxst of exposing the boys - in fact thrusting them into this schmozzle that is pulling me apart today.

I haven't liked co-parenting sites over the last 2 years - i feel they have not really applied to me and out situation as there has not been a parent to 'co' with. I look at it as the boys have had a solo mum (me) and an occasional sports coach (dad) as he turns up to take them to high profile sports events and to post on face book with them.

Do you have kids? How do you cope with them being in a situation that in any other circumstance you would not in a million years send them into?