Yes, we have a counselor we were seeing. He is a LMFT and certifed addictions counselor. By the time we started going, she was already checking out.
I do not recommend seeing a MT unless BOTH partners 100% want to work on the R. Otherwise it will be a disaster.
Yes, I've experienced that 17 years ago. I believe my WW paid lip service to the MC sessions in order to appease her father who felt her divorcing me would be shameful (due to the EA). I think she just learned to suppress her emotional needs and go further underground with POSOM to carry on this EA for at least the past 9 years. (She still has not told me how long ago it restarted, although the earliest evidence was 9 years ago.)
How did you find the right counselor locally? I think if my WW turns around, I will want to find someone local who is pro-marriage. I don't think she would be open to a phone counselor as offered by DB.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
