Help!

[CWOL]

I would have insisted on counseling the moment we reconnected, because she was all in at that point.

Counseling only works when both people have a vested interest, and she was very interested in reconciling at that point.

Have you been able to locate a qualified counselor that will apply the correct principles you subscribe to, if/when she comes back?

My WW and I had a counselor 17 years ago when EA episode 1 occurred. We only went to him a couple times, we felt he was very ineffective. Now, after reading everything on the forums I'm leery about getting a counselor who might reinforce the divorce option.