welcome Kiwi. I realize you have been lurking for some time, but it is always refreshing to finally get that first post in.
it took me 4 months to register, and another two to actually post, so I get that.
Now that you are here and posting, I need to ask, have you read DR or DB?
much of what we talk about is rooted in those books and are fundamental for your work.
So, reading your post, I did not get a sense of what you do on a regular basis for self-care:
-What I mean is what do you do for your GAL activities, with the boys and without?
-what do you do to treat yourself from time to time (OR ALL THE TIME if you are good at this)?
-Have you had any sort of counseling sessions to help with your anxiety or any of the hurt feelings that you've had since your H abandoned you and your children to move on so quickly?
There will be others by asking more questions...as will I, to look at what you perceive and what your husband claims were the failings in your marriage. this will help with the 180's that MWD talks about in her books.
I am so very sorry you are here, but glad that you decided to post. I realize these long MLC marital issues are absolutely crippling, I spent way to long in a depressed stated waiting for things to get better. embracing the simple mantra of moving forward is a great place to start, and I think that you came to the right place for that.
