Still learning AU Bob

[AU Bob]

Hi Vapo
Yes that's my point, I am happy being the person I am now. When they leave it makes you take a long hard look at yourself, you start to see the things you took for granted and behaviours you never really thought about. It gives you a new perspective and understanding on who you are and who you have become. It also makes you look at who your partner has become and wether or not some of the things you did had an impact or influence on their behaviour.
I have worked hard on improving myself and eliminating some of the behaviours and line of thoughts that were making me not shine like I should.
She told me she knows she had issues and that it was not all my fault, she realises this, but does not want to change, she wants to be who she is, and not have to make changes to help our M. She just wants to be who she is now and do what she wants and have no guilt.
I don't like the person she is now and neither do my children.
Until I can see that she is out of the fog and knows that her behaviour Is not right, I don't want her back.
It's very difficult when you are sitting somewhere with them and you see the same person who you have known for 30+ years and it is not them! the body is the same but someone else is residing there now, it's just no them, Its like your sitting with a stranger!
I am at the point now where I have let go, I have dropped the rope, I don't really care what she is doing, I have my own life and for the first time in a long time I am happy, sleeping again and enjoying going out, productive at work again and enjoying my children and grandchildren.