Still NC - Let's do the limbo pt2

[TimR]

Speaking as an outsider looking in I believe what broke wrote to be true. My mother cheated on my father and then left him. She started a life with OM and that failed after a few years. She then bounced around from place to place before entering her most recent relationship (which is miserable for both of them).

When she first left I was 16. She used to talk to me about my dad (he did the same) and it was always be put downs. What a jerk he was etc etc. Now if you were to ask her about him, she would basically describe a saint. Oh how he sacrificed for his family, how he would do anything for us, what a good provider he was, how he taught us boys to be men etc etc. I have absolutely no doubt, none what-so-ever that if he asked her back she would return in an instant... if she thought it would do any good she would go back and beg. Problem is when he got over his pain (btw I don't think he did just built a huge wall around his heart complete with machine gun nests and a moat) he was done with her forever. Since she left he has seen her twice and it made him miserable, my graduation from undergrad and my wedding.

My point is at some point I think the WS or WAS wakes up and realizes what they left, the real issue is... is it too late. If it is, I don't think that they ever truly find happiness or peace knowing what they lost. I think they will always have that regret. I also have another scenario from when I was 16 that plays right into this.