Julie - were you detaching the entire 8 months? Because my situation has been 7 months and I detached in oct/nov then had to start again in January because I blew it with reconciliation talk. In my H's case it pushed him into a corner and he filed. I'm newer to this board but it seems like it does take a very long time for db'ing to work in the case of reconciliation (if it does work).

Zeus posted something earlier today that said you have to give up on your marriage at the same time you are trying to save it when you detach. I'll try to find it because it was such great advice. I think we both could use it.

M 44 H 46
M 20yrs T 25 yrs
S15 S12

ILYBINILWY 7/18/15
Move to MBR 9/8/15
Physical Separation 10/10/15
Suspect A 8/2015
Confirm A 12/27/15
D filed by H 2/2/16