Still NC - Let's do the limbo pt2

[broke]

Daybyday hit the nail on the head - you need to speak up if you are unhappy. And You certainly don't make things worse by having an affair! Isn't it amazing that so many of us have the same story. I'm so glad I found this board. Wish I would've found it months ago.

Sparks - I have to ask you though - would you really want to be the person who uses others? I sincerely doubt it because you are here on this board trying to save yourself and your R. I certainly want to be able to hold my head high and say I wasn't the liar or cheater or the one who bailed when things got tough. None of us were perfect in our relationships but at least we are here trying to better ourselves and fighting for our partners. My guess is most of us here couldn't consciously be cold and calloused even if we tried. That's why we are here. Db'ing for ourselves with small hope for our relationships. We gotta keep fighting the good fight.