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[sandi2]

How does one stay positive and upbeat when interacting, but make them feel they are losing?

This kind of blows my mind (together with how you misinterpreted the meaning behind tempt checks), and I don't know if I am confusing you or exactly what, but if I am, then tell me. Btw, some of these terms we use here on the board, are not used in the book....that I recall. It comes from hundreds and hundreds of true experiences from boad members over the years.

The staying positive & upbeat means that you don't go around with a long, pitiful face, and trying to get sympathy. Don't get a angry, bitter, or sour attitude. Keep yourself built up with positive emotional or spiritual input. The days you feel depressed, fake it till you make it. In spite of what she is doing or saying, you are showing that you will be just fine with or without her. Throwing yourself into GAL will help.

I am not sure how you relate a negative attitude with showing her she could lose you. So, I don't know if this will answer your question. If you let her go and focus on making your own life........she will automatically sense it. You don't have to try to make her feel that she's losing you. When you stop pursuing, she will get the idea. When you stop being available to her, texting her throughout the day/night, GAL, etc., she will begin to see you can move on and that you are going to be just fine.

Look, it's not your mission or responsibility to set out as her punisher. If you will just do what we are suggesting, and allow her to experience reality and consequences of her decisions........she will, hopefully, get her eyes open that she's losing a great guy!

Don't swing too far to one side and going from an emotional basket case to acting like a clown. Stay balanced.

So, about these back & forth texts that are kid related. Just how much texting does it require? Don't use it as your excuse to contact her, b/c she'll see through and know you are pursuing.