Friday night we went out as a family and saw a local university hockey game (we're Canadian eh) - was a lot of fun for us all. Saturday night my wife and I went to a dinner at a friends with 3 other couples. My wife was probably a bottle into wine at this point and she was staring at me from across an island in the kitchen of the house we were at. I looked away and then looked back again and she was still stating at me. I mouthed to her 'are you ok' - I wasn't sure if she was a little too tipsy or what. She didn't respond and just kept staring at me so I walked over to her to ask if she was ok and she put her arm out around me and then started to kiss me. We had a couple of nice kisses and then stayed together for a few minutes then she game me a pat on the butt as if to say you should go now (at least that is how I took it - not so much in negative way but because we were in the middle of conversation in the middle of the kitchen so we were probably a bit of a spectacle at the moment). Anyway, we've not fought since the last fight I wrote about here last week. I have my one on one with the marriage counselor tonight so will see how that goes. I'm not reading anything into the kissing, I think she was just tipsy and dropped her guard for a few moments. We haven't talked about it nor do I plan to. I really want a positive and permanent change in our marriage as much as she does so think I'm best to stay the course following the advice from these forums as so far it has helped me a lot. This is going to take some time to get back on track. It may very well be the tips and guidance I've received from you all that got my wife staring at me in the first place (I have not been pursuing at all - still being a good guy - but no pursuit and attempts at affection of any kind). Our tempers have certainly calmed down and my wife is still making future plans for her and I and the family so that's all a good sign (vacations etc). I'm really hoping the marriage counselor can help us with our communication issues. We don't fight fair with each other and we need to change that and ideally come up with a pull the chute safe word when things start going off the rails. There is also a lot of resentment my wife has (I have some but not a lot) and it needs to be dealt with properly and hopefully she can at some point forgive me and whomever else so that she can move on. She is still closed off emotionally and I don't expect that to change for some time.
Anyway, just a quick update from me. Things are much better this past week but we have a long way to go!
