I am glad that I am not the only one who wonders those things....we moved to a new city a year before the bomb dropped. Why move us away from our friends and family that we loved if you weren't happy? We are miserable in new city and now have to deal with the D. I am not sure we will ever have answers to the why's....my greatest why is "why didn't H talk to me about the problems he was seeing before he started an A because they weren't big enough before the A to get a D and now they are?" It is too confusing and it is probably mind-reading to answer them on our own. These questions keep me up at night, too. Although, as I detach, there are some good days sprinkled in with the bad!
This is exactly the thought I cant get out of my mind. And the reality is the issues weren't enough to warrant leaving but they've been built up by the OW and her friends to the point that the mole hill is now a mountain so high I can't see the top. You can't fix a problem by ignorning it and having an affair certainly doesn't fix anything. And now they've ruined something that was beautiful and rare. And there's no going back.
And Thorton, as my WS travels to CO today to spend a week with his friends, I find myself asking the same questions. And I think the answer is if he doesn't, he will. We've been such a big part of their lives for so long, it's not a switch that can just be turned off. Red robin will always be our birthday place and when our song is on the radio, he'll remember why it was our song and what we went through to get there. Those years don't go away, they're just cloudy right now.
Here's hoping for some sun light
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
