I am glad that I am not the only one who wonders those things....we moved to a new city a year before the bomb dropped. Why move us away from our friends and family that we loved if you weren't happy? We are miserable in new city and now have to deal with the D. I am not sure we will ever have answers to the why's....my greatest why is "why didn't H talk to me about the problems he was seeing before he started an A because they weren't big enough before the A to get a D and now they are?" It is too confusing and it is probably mind-reading to answer them on our own. These questions keep me up at night, too. Although, as I detach, there are some good days sprinkled in with the bad.

Thornton - have you thought about keeping a journal? I wish I would've written down all my emotions and thoughts throughout this journey. I think it will help you see how far you have come when you reread it later. I know that I still have my ups and downs. But, I also know that I am way better than I was the first 2-3 months of this nightmare. It may be helpful for you because you are still so early in this process.

Hope you can do something for YOU today!


M 44 H 46
M 20yrs T 25 yrs
S15 S12

ILYBINILWY 7/18/15
Move to MBR 9/8/15
Physical Separation 10/10/15
Suspect A 8/2015
Confirm A 12/27/15
D filed by H 2/2/16