It's clear now that something in her plan fell apart. She is a mess...
I had that conversation with her but was not completely ready. She surprised me and showed up Saturday morning early (before your reply) and just started brining in her bags. I was in the shower and didn't know she was there until I got out.
We went outside and I asked her what she was doing? She said she has no other options but to stay with us, that the apartment she wanted is no longer available. I asked why not look at other apartments in the area, but she liked that one best . I said, "Sorry princess you need to find a place to stay ASAP, I don't want you staying in my house any longer".
I then told her that while she stayed in my home she will treat me with respect, no starting fights, yelling, screaming, or heavy drinking "I will not tolerate it, you will leave". Also that this is a one time thing, if she leaves again there is no returning. I explained the late nights i've been having with our D5 who didn't buy the W excuses and would wake up at 3am to look for W. Then I would have to console D5 and rock her back to sleep. She agreed and showed a slight bit of softness but that didn't last long.
Then I let her know that I knew she spent the last week with the OM in a hotel, that she took some of our "couples toys" with her and that his divorce was decreed the week before her came out here. She was not happy that I knew any of that. She agreed to not talk to him while the kids or I were in the house.
Tonight we will sit-down and go over what we are telling the kids. She wants to talk numbers first but I need to get the custody and what we are telling this kids down first. Just incase she takes off again without notice. I still have not been served!?
Last thing, she talked with a mutual friend Saturday and mentioned how hard this, she didn't think this would be this complicated, and she is having a hard time finding work. Then Sunday she cleaned and decorated the whole house for Easter, did all my laundry, and even folding my underwear??!!
Thanks everyone for reading! I love reading everyones threads, it helps to know we are not alone.
