Ups and downs

[Cadet]

Basically husband wants more space.

MHO is this is the one thing that you should believe.

Everything else sounds like he is very confused, so
I would stick with believing none of what he says.

I know this is hard stuff to do,
however until he emerges from his dungeon you will be wasting your time trying to make him realize what he is doing.

Let go, DETACH. And try to start following DB.