That is a huge decision to make! Is it a dream job? I do not know what I would do but DO NOT TURN IT DOWN when or if they offer. Ask for a few days to decide if you need to but do not make a fast no and regret it.
Thanks Red for stopping by. It could be a really great job, and I'm not really happy in the job I have now. I've turned down other things that I later regretted, a couple of years back.
But I've lived in this town for 22 years and I can't quite see me leaving it, when all I want is my W back.
I want to do something awesome that she'll see and remember me... but not move to Boston!!
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I think you cant put your life on hold waiting for W to come back.
Its been said on here many times, she left, its over she fired you. You are to move forward with your life making the best decisions for you. Its time to look after yourself. To be selfish and if taking that job will give you a better life take it. Don't make the decision based on if W will do this or that.
Its your life not W and your life. You are to make you happy. So with W out of the equation would you take the job?
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
I'm not ready to accept that she's out of the equation for good. Just 10 days ago she was saying she's giving serious thought to returning to our R. That's what I want more than anything. I'm not sure I'm emotionally able to handle moving so far away from her and my friends.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I think Vise82 has a great perspective: what would you do if your W wasn't in the picture? Like Red said, is it your dream job? You definitely can ask for time if you get the job offer. Don't rush it, think it through and then do what is going to make you the happiest in the long run.
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
I moved down to the floor and acted as if I was having a great time cheering the team on to victory. Smiling, clapping, laughing w a friend, all the while dying inside. Games for 22 years and now I don't know if I'll ever go to another one. Please remind me this is the right thing to do. To do nothing. To try and have fun and lmove away from her?
YES, YES, YES this is the righ thing to do! That was PERFECT! You acted like you were having the time of your life regardless of how you felt inside. She doesn't get to know how you really feel. She needs to think you're going on without her. I know it's hard, but it's the only way to draw her back to you. You just have to move on. The more you persue and chase her, the more she runs from you. I wish there was another way, but there just isn't. You're doing great though.
And, MB only asks SOMETIMES if there is anything else to try because I have been complete and total NC for a very long time. I don't get to see my H at work, the store, around town, or anywhere else. Not ever. Even though I ask if there is anything else I can do, I know the answer is NO, that's why I always tell YOU that this is the only way. We both know it, it's just really hard to do it. We can be there to support each other through it though.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
W did not leave me a check for the credit card bill like she promised. Should I let it go for now or break NC and ask for it again? I paid it on the 5th, and she owes over $800. I can cover her share, but I don't want her to forget. I may be asking very trivial questions for a while. I'm like an addict trying to not think about her, but I'm not there yet, so it feels as though everything is EXTREMELY important.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
W, I paid the credit card bill. If you can let me have your $800 by X date please - you can post to ???? address if you prefer. Many thanks :-)
In terms of finance - you certainly don't want to bankroll any of her 'extra marital' activities. After this bill, are you taking some steps to separate some of this stuff?
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Yes, this is the last joint cc bill. I'm not bankrolling anything. She's very wealthy and can treat ow to the best of everything if she wants to. I'm the one living in a room in a basement. Bitter? You bet.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Even though I ask if there is anything else I can do, I know the answer is NO, that's why I always tell YOU that this is the only way. We both know it, it's just really hard to do it. We can be there to support each other through it though.