I Think it's Way Too Late

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Can't tell you what to do with the picture. If he is better friends with your wife than you, it could be just as bad. One of her friends sees it, mentions it to her and she calls him and asks why he took down her photo. He explained because you called. From my perspective I think it is a darn if you do, darn if you don't. I guess I would say just ignore it. If she calls you out on it, act as if. People have pics of you two together, you can not control what they do with them.

The bigger issue is you giving her so much power of your emotional well being that you are so worried about it. Things are going to pop up, try to detach from the sitch and not let it bother you. Yeah that is much easier said than done. My W can say something and my heart melts or say do something and my blood boils. We both need to get that darn rope and its crazy glue off our hands.

You're right - I'm just going to ignore it. It's also possible she'll never see it. I don't think any friends will see it as they're not that connected with this event.

I was just somewhat shocked to see this - but not on reflection. I'm beginning to think it was pure coincidence and planned long before this guy knew what was going on. If not, it's nice of him to try, and I appreciate it.

As far as the art, I've considered I'll just submit the piece. For the time being I'll plan on not being at the event.

I could see at this point how the W would consider it pursuing or spying depending on who she shows up with. That might sound a bit silly considering we both have an equal right to be there, but like I said at some point she's going to "come out" with this R. She's fighting like crazy to keep it a secret at the moment. Plus, the last thing I ever want to see is her together with this guy. It will be a very, very long time before I'm emotionally strong enough.

I've got my first post BD call with the L this morning, I'm assuming this means things have started. I anticipate being an emotional wreck after that as the reality of the impending D sinks back in.