Went out with husband on our first "date". We had very neutral conversation. Just catching up. He dressed nice so that was good sign. Of course I am bad at DBing so I asked for talk after the dinner. We had agreed to do so a few weeks ago.
Basically husband wants more space. He said that he cannot handle drama and fighting and marital stress. He said that he is incapable of multi tasking. That he takes a long time to complete things and cannot leave thing incomplete. (He has ocd). He said he cannot think about us until he figures out career. That his main goal is to be provider. That he needs to be providing for kids. (This makes no sense to me as he also wants to be separated and not see kids)
I asked him if he is happier now that he left and he said he no he is miserable.
He is very unhappy in his job. That he is earning a lot less then everyone he knows. (He is very ambitious and went to prestigous schools, earned top grades, almost valedictorian in very large HS) That he has been doing work way above his title and not being compensated. This is very true. His depression started when his company was aquired by other company and he was given more responsibilities but salary and benefit decreases. He has been at this job from the start of his career. I made a lot of demands because I was frusturated by the workaholism....
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
