Hope,

I think what Zeus is saying is that you have to let H go before he will ever want to come back.

It's counter intuitive to what you think you should do.

Take a look at Uphill's thread. His W now wants to work on their marriage. But it took him completely letting her go before she woke up.

So... the more you can actually move on from H, the more likely he will notice and want to come home.