Fo and Julie are both struggling with anger and their H right now. I hear the hurt and loss and the betrayal. Imagine that anger turned inwards. Would you not do anything to rid yourself of that.
I don't know how to explain this.
This comment saddens me on so many levels. It makes me reflect on myself and my husband but also on what you are going through.
I would never want you to feel torwards yourself the way I sometimes/often feel torwards my husband. You feel betrayed by your body. You are angry because you feel as if you have no control of something that is so essential to your goals and future. How do you learn to just accept yourself for what you are and what you bring?
Understanding my husband and talking to him helps me to accept him. The anger really comes because he won't talk to me and explain. When he does I no longer feel anger, I feel love and compassion. Perhaps understanding yourself and listening to your own inner voice might help you?
I want to tell you straight out. While I have met people that have done well with lap band short term, I am afraid of the lap band procedure. I have seen some very sad complications. I am only being this direct with you because I have a current aquaintance undergoing such a complication. She is my age. Does the risk of these complications increase second time around? Are the success rates of such a procedure actually worth the risk for the complications? I am sure you have thoroughly researched this and are considering this from every possible angle so I apologize if I am being intrusive.
