There are plenty of men that would want a woman like you. You are not broken. You are a great person, your feelings are lying to you.
Your self esteem has taken a blow, you will heal from this. Your husband's decision to cheat is not your fault. It is a result of his character.
Your husband is an idiot and he will regret this one day.
X2 Red, seriously.
I wish I had more to offer you in terms of advice but I can't agree more with everyone here.
I can only imagine how much it hurts, how deep down that hurt truly goes. It's like a bottomless pit of emotions and feelings and crap keeps going in and never truly gets pulled out. It's just there. BUT....you have to let yourself feel it. You do, and it's a good thing to get it out and be done with it so you can move forward and find real happiness. I know you won't, but don't let this define you. You are STRONG, you are CAPABLE, and YOU CAN DO THIS.
xoxoxoxox :] I'm here for ya lady, as always. I may be creeping in the background but I'm reading up on this, shaking my head...in awe...of your awesomeness. Focus on the positive. You will start again. You WILL be better than ever.
Well today started off crappy. Told him the kids would be packed and ready to leave by 3pm and to please bring income tax money as I really need money..
He showed up at 6:40 am..straight from work came here..his excuse to play a video game and tell me my plan makes no sense about not sharing the house. The kids have nothing at his parents and I'm being selfish for removing them for their rooms.
I went into my sons room to lay down and go to bed aka avoid him. I didnt say much. I'm half asleep..exhausted..and can not even fight with our kids asleep.
I feel like a failure now because I didnt fight harder. He threw me off coming home this early.
You have done well. (((Rednail))) Not doing anything is also an action. In your case, you didn't fight, you didn't pursue, you didn't take his bait. Knowing when not to do something is a sign of wisdom and strength.
This is more than what I would have done, and will still have done. You don't have to fight him. You are fighting for yourself and if you desire, your marriage.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
WH I understand it makes no sense to you and it does to me.
STFU and walk away. WTF WH.
That's what I did. What WH thinks is of interest only in considering his behaviour and he sacked you as his W. He set you free of his demands, you now have control of your destiny.
Let him go tell his OW what to do, see how far that gets him!
Well done. You let go of arguing, excellent strategy, you did well.
Did you get the cash?
If not time for hard ball with your L.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Your H came over and surprised you to enact some of that control he is losing over you. You did great - walked away, didn't pursue or engage with him. And, you did that with being emotionally overwhelmed and exhausted. And, I agree with V - if you didn't get the cash, then time to talk to your L about getting more serious about that. Keep up the good work - you are stronger than you think!
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Eventually he came into the room to talk..he drives me nuts. He said he wanted me to know he told his parents,and his 3 best friends about the OW SINCE he told me he doesnt have to hide it anymore. His parents said they suspected him but what can they do..they cant stop him.
He literally told me he isn't going to change our arrangements or else he just will not keep them overnight. That is his solution not keeping them overnight and having more free nights with his OW.
He saidnhe is going to bring me 2500-3000$ for income taxes today around 1-2 when he comes back over.
Only thing I said is under no cicumstances is he allowed to have the OW around our kids or take to family events while we are still married.
He said he doesnt want to pay for my medicine the dr has me on since it is 50$ a month and he thinks I need to stop talking it. He truly doesnt care about me.
I did do something stupid. I asked him for a kiss just to what he would say, I was half joking being a smartA.
He had a boner(obviously see it and close to my face trying to talk to me.) I said why don't you just kiss me if you are going to be so close to my face?hmm?
He looked at me for a second. He kissed my forehead, cheeks, nose, and neck. He said happy? I'm not kissing your lips that will make me uncomfortable. I do not want to be forced into doing something I do not want to do..plus I bought you your sex toy if you miss me and get horny.
He said he didn't come over for him to be molested and have me throw myself at him. I was like really.. I wouldn't even let him hug me. I pushed him off.
The cockiness in his voice made me want to punch him in the face.
Oh and he said I'm sorry I didnt mean to fall in love with someone else. That hurt that he told me again he loves her. I still care about you a lot though.
On his way out the door he said, I see you did your makeup because I came over. Still want to look sexy for me.
I'm like no I did it for myself, why would I do it for you?
I know. I asked myself the same thing afterwards.. Idk what my issue was at that point. I guess I fell back into just wanting him to mame me feel loved? I do not know.
All I can think about is if my inlaws are going to let her stay there and be with him now on the weekends he is off. Would they do that to me..would they?
