KGirl - new life, new stuff

[Mozza]

I agree with Maybell's small steps. I took a lot of comfort in certain routines, like posting one picture a day on Instagram. I also joined a gym 7 months after BD (still going 10 months later!). I also made sure to cook every meal I had with the kids. So find small things, like doing the dishes. Dressing properly will do wonders for you. Perhaps you can choose your clothes in the evening, when it's easier, and just step into them in the morning. Yep, that would be my first choice.

But I'd like to go back to GAL you actually enjoy. I don't think we ever got there. Forget about what you should be doing. It was helpful for m at the time to think in terms of "permission", as in giving myself permission to do certain things. Take some time to reflect on stuff you love. When you have that feeling of "OMG, could I really do... this?" or "Yes! I should have thought about this earlier", then you're getting there. Give us five such things!

It's ok to take some time to get over it. It's still your low self-esteem that's keeping you down, that sought a safe place where to hide from the pain of S. But there is no such place, where it can't happen. Hopefully you'll come out of it swinging for the fence for your next relationship.